Wednesday, August 13, 2014

"Rules" for School

There is a blog floating around talking about a seemingly college age female who is giving some high school freshmen a list of rules (suggestions) for life in high school based on her experience.  I really struggle with it, in large part because the parent writing the blog refers to them as rules, and in part because much of it feels like the church rules we put in place because we want to protect "ours" from "that" culture.  So instead here are my suggestions ("Rules") for students (in the school of life):

  1. Surround yourself with people who you can trust and who want the best for you.
  2. Think before you act, every actions has consequences
  3. Don't let anyone make you feel damaged, you are in the image of God
  4. Set boundaries you are comfortable with, and make others stick to them no matter what.
  5. Always have a person who you can tell EVERYTHING to
  6. Be careful how you let someone into your life, but make sure to risk yourself when you feel it could be worth it.
  7. If you think someone may be putting you at risk in any way, step away from them.
  8. If someone hurts another person, go out of your way to take care of them and show them love
  9. Communicate with God, do this via words, art, music, whatever.  And listen for responses in the world.
  10. Take time away from all of the distractions of the world, it will help you hear truth.
  11. Be nice to those who seem concerned about you. Listen to them, and sometimes trust them even when you disagree.
  12. If you find yourself lying to those in #1 or #11, you may be in a place you really don't want to be.  Step away.
  13. Say No when in doubt. If your Yes can't be enthusiastic, take time to think about what's really going on before moving forward.
  14. Don't stop just because you feel like you failed or are stuck, keep swimming, stuff happens, figure out what you're going to do next and do it.
  15. Write.  Tell you story and put it down in words or art regularly. We are not just in a moment, we are our stories.
  16. Find community.  Not just like minded people, not just people your age, gender, race, orientation, politics, etc.  Find diverse people you can trust and who will push you to change.
  17. If it doesn't build up others, don't do it.
  18. Don't think you have all the answers or the right way to do something. When you feel this way you can devalue and judge others, and make it easier for others to do that too.
  19. Wait, think, dialogue before forming opinions. Your immediate reaction may be right, but the emotions involved in that moment may cause more problems
  20. Think before you post.  Nothing is private, all we do is shared, see #2.  Also not everyone may understand context they are distant from.
As I wrote these, I realized how defensive the initial list seemed to me.  Some of these are still a bit more defensive than I'd like them to be, but I hope they read more proactive and connected to the wholeness of who we are as humans created in the image of Love.

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